Lately I find myself wading through articles that I must make sure are based in reality. It has taken me from avid reader to avid fact checker. Yesterday I read an article that I was utterly sure was satire. Luckily I did not wager on that assertion.
Apparently Carleton University removed a scale from their campus gym. To be clear, a weight scale. They did this because one student complained about the fact that it was triggering. I assume that is snowflake-speak for: the scale was making her uncomfortable with her actual weight. When she stepped on it voluntarily. I mean, I assume no one was forcibly shoving her on it. I’ve been known to force encourage someone to do an extra set of burpees, but forcing someone on a scale? Not guilty, your honor.
One student complained. On a campus of 28, 289 students. Where the scale once stood, a sign now states that the university’s choice to remove the scale is “in keeping with current fitness and social trends.” Excuse me? Current fitness and social trends? I pride myself on staying up to date with most of what is happening in the fitness world and I can tell you with absolute confidence that not knowing what your personal stats are is not a trend. In fact, most fitness professionals encourage you to know as much about your current health level as possible. We even request that you see a doctor before embarking on any fitness program. A doctor that will likely weigh you in the course of their routine examination.
What really got my Lululemon knickers in a knot, though, was the fact that the manager of the university’s health and wellness, a chap by the name of Bruce Marshall, agreed with removing the scale. He said that focusing only on weight can have a negative impact. “Why obsess about it? Why not look at other indicators?” He explained, helpfully I might add, that people can also set goals in terms of cardiovascular fitness and overall strength, instead of focusing on the number on the scale. I agree with everything he said. That’s not what got my underpants twisted though. It’s the fact that a fully qualified fitness professional, I’m assuming, was too afraid to tell this fragile china cup that if the scale was triggering, not to step on it. I can tell you with absolute conviction that if I had been Bruce Marshall, that would have been my response. I would have fought tooth and nail to keep that scale right where it was. The choice to step on it is just that…a choice. If you don’t want to know your weight, that fine and dandy with me. It’s only one tool of many that can help you manage your health. Deciding that your actual weight is too triggering to face is cool. What’s not cool is deciding that you and your needs are vastly more important and outweigh (see what I did there) the needs of the many. Hah! I got a Star Trek reference in there!

Samar El Faki, a first year student at the University would disagree with me. She took to Facebook to send a message that she was appalled at some of the comments from students questioning why the scale was removed. “Scales are very triggering. I think people are being insensitive because they simply don’t understand. They think eating disorders are a choice when they are actually a serious illness.”
Now, I’m the first to admit that I’m not everyone’s cup of latte when it comes to doling out fitness and wellness advice. I don’t sugarcoat things to my clients because I’m fairly certain they will eat that as well. I’m not Willy Wonka.
Samar is not my client, but if she was, I’d have to have a serious chat with her about how she is not the center of the universe, despite what her parents may have told her. How does this young woman navigate her way through this world? If she’s a vegan and stumbles into a steak house, is she triggered? Does she demand the restaurant be shuttered?

I’m not sure why she would assume that because the vast majority of people want to be able to step on a scale, that makes them think eating disorders are a choice. How does she make that leap? It’s impressive, though. I wonder if she can leap as far in lateral or bench hops? We’ll probably never know as she is likely too busy wringing her hands.
As someone who lives and breathes the fitness business, I’d like to make Samar aware (though I’ll stop short of composing an “open letter” because that’s dumb) that the vast majority of human beings have infinite compassion for people struggling with all sorts of issues. There are days I feel I’m more of a psychologist than a trainer. For many people the emotional and mental sides of them get squarely in the way of them bettering themselves physically. My job, however, is not to let them give in to that. It’s to push them. To make them uncomfortable. That’s when real growth happens. Regardless, I’d still support anyone’s right to not step on a scale. I’d just not allow them to take away that right from someone who wants to.
I discussed this event with a good friend who now lives, against her will, in Arizona. She gave me an hilarious perspective on this, so I asked her if I could credit her. Michelle was agreeable, even if it meant that she would have to publicly admit to being a Carleton grad. Apparently she can handle that. Besides, she went on to greater things. After completing Soviet and East European Studies at Carleton, she attended Wilfred Laurier University where she obtained her MA in Military History and she is currently researching the role of Civil Affairs in 21st Army group in the campaign for Northwest Europe 1944-1945 at the University of Ulster, Belfast for her History PhD. She said: “Oh my…. my alma mater. I didn’t realize stepping on a scale was no longer a choice. So strange too really since it takes a whopping C- to get into the place. Most people go for beer, beaver tails, and poutine, hence one doesn’t step on the scale at Carleton.”
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What a great article!?!
I find the concept of “triggers” to be kinda frustrating, because it seems like people are afraid of the truth. I don’t much care for what my scale is currently saying, but I’m using that knowledge to motivate me to change. Although, I haven’t reduce my calories as much, I have began switching the kinds of foods I eat and I’m tracking what I Eat to make sure I can eat “right”. The next step for me, is to begin reducing calories…If I don’t like what the scale says, I’m going to do something about it. But the last thing I would do is punish others for something I don’t like.
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Completely agree, and that was my point. Use the scale or don’t use the scale. Both are reasonable choices. Just don’t take that choice away from anyone that may actually want to weigh themselves.
If you are trying to lose weight in a reasonable manner, then you are doing the right thing by switching the kinds of foods you eat. As long as you are switching to whole foods like fruits and vegetables. Not skittles and chocolate..LOL! Seriously, that is the single best step. Exercise is another step. You can start with walking. Another trick that I use is intermittent fasting. I eat only for 8 hours daily. You can actually stretch this to 11, if you are just starting out. I have my first bite of food at 10:30 am or thereabouts and then stop eating 8 hours later..usually about 6:30 – 7:00 pm. This works for me beautifully.
Look at what you are drinking as well. Water, green tea and club soda are all good choices. If you are drinking soda or alcohol, that will slow down your weight loss.
Thank you for stopping by my blog and for your comments.
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Thank you for the advice!
Actually, I’m a type 1 diabetic, so I have to be extremely careful with not eating…I’ve gone back to a 6 tiny meals a day method…that way my blood sugar levels don’t fluctuate too much. I’m also drinking anywhere between 96 – 120 ounces of water per day. And unsalted almonds have been my “go to” when fits of hunger hit. A small handful goes a long ways.
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All great choices based on your diabetes type 1. Wishing you success! When you take control of your diet, the way you have, you are already ahead of the game.
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Such a delicate flower.
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Hmmm…what an interesting article! I do agree with you, Gail. Despite my long and still on-going relationship with food and my body, I do think that stepping on the scale is a CHOICE. In fact, it’s what is in your HEAD – HOW you process that number on the scale that is important not the scale itself. Let’s say, supposedly, that this university did force students to step on the scale. However, the impact and the “trigger” the scale brings someone is based on their mindset. Someone after seeing a number on the scale can think “Oh my goodness! I’m so fat, I need to lose weight, I am “triggered”” while someone can think “Oh, ok, that’s a number. Ok, gotcha. But I can do x amounts of pushups, I exercise regularly, so yeah oh wells. I feel good so I don’t really care.” Now of course, there are different gradations between these two, but I do agree with you that going on the scale is a choice! Gail, thanks for such a great run-down. Hope you are safe if Storm Stella hit you! xo, Steph
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I am safe and warm from the winter storm that is pounding us currently. We live right by Lake Erie so we seem to get more snow than most people. It’s all good though. A fire is going, I’m writing a few articles and fighting for scales around the country!! LOL! Thank you for reading my post and for your comments. xxx Cheers.
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That’s good to hear that you’re safe and warm! The weather has been so unpredictable, and this snow storm was definitely not something I expected. Yay! I can’t wait to read more of your articles – there super informative and at the same time humorous! Xo, Steph
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Gail, don’t even get me started, chica. F***in’ B***S**t s***y b*****s need to pull up their training diapers a little tighter. What kind of snowflake is “triggered” by a scale? I wonder if a Big Mac triggers her too.
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Gawd, Jim. I wish you’d be less ambiguous in your comments. LMAO.
I honestly thought it was satirical. I source checked the article three different ways. My face is actually bruised as I face palmed my way through all of them.
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I’ll bet. I could only imagine how much fun she would make my industry… Poor girl hung a “Do not hire me” sign around her neck.
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She is a first-year student in the enriched support program. I do not know what that is, and I lack the motivation to look it up. I have a feeling, however, that it won’t make her marketable once she departs those hallowed halls of education…..
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Yep. You couldn’t pay me to hire her.
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Pre-college. Enrichment programs are for those who aren’t quite there yet but would rather spend an extra $50,000 on their kid’s education than sign them up for ditch digging 101.
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There is a concept in process control that goes along the line of “if you want to change something first you need to measure it”. Removing the one of the means of measurement just sounds to me like an excuse not to change. I fully expect a ban on tape measures and calculators to come next.
Whilst I’m on a soap box. Who the hell are these people? Why do they feel they have the right to deny others the use of tried and tested tools to salve their delicate souls. If I was cynical I would call it oppression.
As my father often says “when the center of the universe is finally discovered a lot of people are going to be very upset”.
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One: I think I would like your father.
Two: I’d imagine that if a scale is triggering your sense of insecurity about your health, then the very fact that a campus gym exists must be a giant middle finger in their faces.
Three: I don’t know what’s more pathetic. The fact that someone complained about the scale or the fact that someone felt that complaint had merit and removed the scale.
Thanks for your thoughts. They are always welcome. xx
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Gail when I first read you post I was at work and could not reply but I couldn’t wait to do so! First to the person who said who is triggered by a scale well if you have had an eating disorder then yes a scale could be a trigger for relapse for that person.
Now having said that…I just wrote a post about this a few days ago about someone saying she was triggered by what someone had written by that persons own experience. I have been in the substance abuse field for 26 years now, CERTIFIED in addiction. And nothing pisses me off more than people thinking others are responsible for their recovery! The ONLY recovery program people have to be concerned about is THIER program. Everyone else is responsible for their own programs of recovery! If someone was triggered that is what the relapse prevention plan was for to cope with the trigger(s). The world did not change just because someone decided to change their behavior (go into recovery) it’s exactly as it was when they left and they have to adapt to it with the new behaviors and coping skills. Trust and believe there are triggers EVERYWHERE so people need to work their programs to cope with them; because honestly most people really aren’t too concerned that people decided to change their behavior that person in recovery needs to learn how to live in the world they left as a recovering person. I understand the tone of this, that was intentional but I don’t let my people get away with that stuff. I mean really what is this girl going to do have scales removed from every place she goes? She needs to work her program!
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I was so hoping you’d read this and comment. My wish granted! I love hearing from professionals in the addiction field. I’ve worked with a few, and I’m always impressed by they way the people in the your field stay focused on your clients problems and not allowing them to deflect you from the actual issues.
You wrote:…And nothing pisses me off more than people thinking others are responsible for their recovery! The ONLY recovery program people have to be concerned about is THEIR program.
All. The. Yeses.
I could actually sense the urgency in your message to me. I could feel your passion about this subject. I felt you could hardly stop your fingers from flying over the keyboard in your determination to be heard. I LOVE this.
I, personally, am getting tired of the “trigger” word. I watched my dad decide that something would set him off, so he would drink. We all have that ability to reason, and when you can’t manage something on your own, that is where your field comes in. However, as you know, there is only so much you can do. How do you stay professional with some people who want to blame everyone and everything but themselves? My hat is off to you. It has to be the successes that you do have with many people, that makes everything worthwhile.
It seems we have a whole cohort of people that have decided the world must meet their demands to make their lives easier or less stressful. The truth is, we all must make adjustments and to thrust your imagined way of moving through life on others is just not practical.
As always, thanks for weighing in. I know you are going through some agonizing disappointment with your running endeavors. My heart broke for you as I binge read and caught up with your blog. Thanks you for taking the time to read my post and to comment. xx
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Gail my job can be stressful and you’re right those folks who were brave enough to do the work without excuses keep me going every day; I know how hard it is to do and I stand with everyone of them.
One of my dear mentors passed away last year and he was old school recovery (0ver 40 years); I was talking with a friend shortly after he passed and we both agreed it is going to take decades to get back to a place like our friend Russ and those like him, who got honest with themselves, did the hard work, and took responsibility for their recovery. Many of these folks now want some easy way out, no responsibility, and expect everyone to accommodate their recovery…please! That entitlement non-sense needs to stop and quick. As for me I’m doing better, the physical therapist says I’m improving and I have to be patient 🙂 I won’t be able to get back out there and run a 5k let alone a half-marathon anytime soon. 😦 He told me yesterday. I will have to build back up slowly almost as if I was just starting. I didn’t realize how weak my left side was; but it is encouraging and progress is being made. Thanks reading my posts.
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May I humbly suggest that if you describe yourself as “triggered” by anything, then maybe the problem lies within yourself and not the party doing the triggering.
A scale is a great tool. You know why? Because, provided it is correctly calibrated, the scale does not lie. It doesn’t care whether you are male or female, black or white, old or young, straight or gay, or whatever other things you may self-identify as. It provides you with a fact, a metric, a completely unbiased piece of information. Now, it is only one metric which may not fully define you, but it is a useful fact. I understand being wary of a fact. I have been there, whether regarding my weight or my blood pressure or my bank account balance. But if I am nervous about what any of those things reveal, that is on me and on me alone. It does not make that fact invalid or useless. And it certainly doesn’t mean others should not have access to that same fact about themselves. Because facts help. They are indicators. And, viewed correctly, they can motivate.
Postscript: At the start of February, I went to the doctor for a checkup and my blood sugar came back borderline high. My mom happens to have diabetes. I could have easily been “triggered” by this. Instead, it motivated me. I immediately cut all alcohol and excess sugars out of my diet. No beer with dinner, no sweets, nothing to drink except water or coffee. Two weeks later, my blood sugar had dropped from borderline high straight back into the middle of the normal range. And while weight wasn’t the primary concern, I have also shed 7 excess pounds in the past six weeks.
Facts are our friends.
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Do you see that?? It’s me. Giving you standing ovation. Seriously and savagely well said.
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Another outstanding piece Gail! Love it! Thank you for writing for all of us to enjoy, keep up the excellent work. hugs
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Thank you, Linda! Love and miss you. Feels a bit like Calgary today. Brutal snow storm, and cold. Thank you for being a supporter and reading! xxxx
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A bit behind in my reading … a kick-ass read as usual. I hope this poor thing finds a nice rock to live under so she can cope (but maybe that’s a trigger too, Trigger). Makes me want to go hug a scale.
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#scalesmattertoo
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Poor love. If you’re in contact with anyone similar my old PT had a great response to whinging. You were just told to ‘Man up Princess’. It works.
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I feel I’m very empathetic to people, but my patience ends when someone feels that everyone else must accommodate their fragile psyche. I’m pretty sure I’d like your old PT. Seems a sensible sort.
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Woot, I will certainly put this to good use!
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Sigh. I’m so old.
I’m now wondering if I really understand what “trigger” means. There are some things — auditory, visual, for instance — that cause me to go right back into the acute phase of my grief over losing my husband a few years ago. Or PTSD, as my grief counselor has advised me, that stems from the sudden, traumatic loss and finding my husband deceased. Not to minimize the PTSD symptoms suffered by so many members of our armed forces who’ve seen and experienced far far worse. I wrote about this a bit several months ago…https://stilettosstoliandscribbles.wordpress.com/2016/10/27/ill-take-triggers-for-500-alex/
What I do know is that I would not voluntarily choose to put myself into a situation or an environment that is likely to “trigger” those feelings. It’s just smart.
And maybe that’s the root of the silliness you’ve unearthed in this story. Jeez.
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I don’t know one person that doesn’t have some kind of memory that is either frightening, sad, or anger inducing. I have plenty. My psychiatrist told me to face my fears, so I took professional advice and don’t allow my memories and the places they take me to rule me. That’s how I have chosen to face things. We live in a world now where it is considered a good thing not to FEEL. Hey, if that’s someone’s choice, I’m fine with it. Just don’t drag anyone with you. Scales scare you? Don’t step on one.
I can’t even attempt to put myself in your position whereupon you discovered your husband dead. Horrific. I’ll bet that when you go back to that dark phase of your grief, you experience it fully and don’t shy from it. It’s okay to feel all those emotions. It doesn’t have to defeat you. It is part of who you are.
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You bet. The hardest lesson I’ve had to learn through this process is to allow myself to live the feelings when they come and not practice the stoicism that was hard wired into my personality as a child. Fortunately, I’m in a phase of my life that, if I’m having a bad time, I can just go with it. I don’t have to explain myself or ask for time away. And those times are coming less frequently now. Thank you for this conversation.
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I LOVE this!!! I couldn’t agree more! Thank you for being true and REAL in an overly sensitive world!
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Thank you.
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Although I agree with some of your points, I think you are missing a big part of the picture – for those of us who have had eating disorders, having a scale in public and seeing others use a scale and obsess about their weight is almost as bad as having one in our own homes. I used to feel physically sick if I didn’t use a scale, but when I started recovering and gaining weight, that scale use would then also make me want to restrict because of the weight gain it was reflecting. I was stuck in a vicious cycle and the only thing I could do was to chuck out or hide any scales in my house. I know that if there had been a scale in a public place which I was using to try and make myself better (the gym) it would have been much harder to recover without obsessing over my weight. It seems like some of your comments here are not thought through in how they may affect recoverers or even current sufferers of eating disorders, and I would beg you to consider your words a bit more carefully in the future.
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Well, at least you agree with some of my points. Win!
Trust. I am not missing part of the bigger picture. I’ve worked with people that have eating disorders, and have had massive success with each one. I’ve taken many workshops and courses on the subject. I’m very compassionate, but I’m ruthlessly compassionate. My job, when hired, is to help a person achieve their fitness goals. I think it would have helped me understand your grievance with my comments if you had been specific. You wrote: “…some of your comments here are not thought through…” I can assure you that all of my comments are thought through, but I did go back and re read my post, just in case. Nope. Didn’t find anything that I don’t completely believe in. So….because you were not specific, I’m afraid I am at a disadvantage as to what precisely offended you.
While I completely sympathize with your personal experience, it’s just that. YOUR experience. We clearly have different ideas about dealing with personal issues, and you’d probably never hire me to help you with yours. That is okay with me. You? Clearly not, though that’s okay by me as well. See, here’s the thing. You’re being incredibly selfish, narcissistic, and insular by insisting that a scale in a PUBLIC place should be removed just for you. That’s not how this world works. You have every right to get rid of any scale in your home that might trigger (gawd, how I loathe that word, but here I am..using it) you and cause you to relapse. You need to do what you must do. However, no one has the right to demand that a scale be removed from a public gym because THEY are upset by it. Here’s a thought…deal with it, avert your gaze, or….just don’t step on it. I have found, in my 25 years of being a fitness professional, that when you deal with an issue with your eyes wide open, you can conquer it. Avoidance rarely works, and cheats you of growth.
You begged me to consider my words a bit more carefully in the future. I already do that. My intention is never to knowingly hurt someone, but I won’t be dictated to on my own blog, nor will I stop being sensible and grounded in reality. Thank you for stopping by.
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Your essay was spot on.
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I’m glad you appreciated my point of view. Thanks for reading!!
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